September 25, 2006
My kids are now grown and living out on their own, but one thing we always did when they were growing up, was to sit down together for dinner. Well, sometimes my husband didn't make it home in time if he was working late, but at the very least, it was the kids and I having a meal at the same time, at the dinner table in the kitchen.
Just as my son started 7th grade, we moved from one town to another - much better place and bigger house. This meant we often had one of his best friends at our house for the weekend as they now lived 30 miles apart. (they would trade off - so half the time, my son would be down there for the weekend)
One day, after numerous weekends at our house, D (friend of young son) said to me, "do you always eat dinner together?". I looked at him in surprise because I had never expected that question. I said "yes, always"... it never occured to me to do things any other way. He said, "we only have dinner together when we do a family get together".
Now there are a couple of things to note here. First of all, I am not a short order cook. I make a meal, everyone eats the meal. If you don't like the meal... that's too bad, cause I don't do special orders. Plus I want all the mess in one room. Once kids start taking food to their rooms, things get messy very fast, then I have to go clean up the mess and the attendant bugs.
Secondly, D's extended family had frequent get togethers. They are a close knit group even though they are several hours apart. This means they have meals together, it just isn't every night.
I did find it amusing. I guess he figured everyone should be able to nuke their own food and head off in different directions unless it was a special occasion. But since we never even owned a microwave until we moved to the then "new house", I wasn't in the habit of using it for anything other than warming leftovers. Therefore I didn't have the right kind of food for individual "heat and eat".
There weren't ever had any profound discussions around the table that I remember. We probably should have done, but most of the time it was pretty much general conversation - except for my son who was busy eating and didn't have much to say. I don't know that having a daily family meal influenced either of my kids in the matter of substance abuse (which seems to be the point of the officially designated family day). At least until they got to college age, it was my one good chance to catch a glimpse of them during the course of a day, otherwise they would have holed up in their rooms and I'd never even see them.
Posted by: oddybobo at September 25, 2006 07:39 AM (mZfwW)
Darn work anyway!!!!
Oh, and I just love this story!
Posted by: Tammi at September 25, 2006 08:16 AM (Bitcf)
Posted by: Contagion at September 25, 2006 09:06 AM (0m/ho)
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